When the Healer Needs Healing

You’re a natural.

You love your job. And you’re really good at it – sharp, insightful, creative – successful.

Some people go into a healing or helping profession because they’ve received great benefit as a patient or client, and some because of the romantic idea of helping others, or, like you, maybe they’re just “naturally” good at helping others.

As a “natural,” you’ve had people telling you about their problems for your entire life. Politely listening to strangers at party after party, you’ve learned not to talk about what you do – or you’ve decided to avoid parties all together.

One thing is for sure – you’ve learned to ignore your own feelings or problems and focus on others’ needs, instead.

But your relationships suffer.

You’re hurt by the way a colleague talks to you.

You’re insecure about how a client perceives you.

You’re disappointed that your spouse is hurt because he doesn’t get that you need down time after a long day – that you just need some time alone.

When are you best?

Are you a better therapist, nurse, or teacher when you’re getting your own needs met –

Or when you’re neglecting them?

Most people would say that they’re better able to be there for their clients when they’re taking good care of themselves.

What is good self-care?

I’m not talking about exercising or getting bodywork or your nails done. Those things are great, but they won’t sustain you.

What I am talking about is making genuine connection, feeling cared for, becoming aware of your deepest emotional needs and how to fulfill them.

Taste your own medicine.

Give yourself permission to receive care for a while.

Let yourself explore your long-ignored fears, hopes, and desires.

Lean how to meet your needs for love, acceptance, and forgiveness.

Stop using your work as an excuse to ignore your own problems.

Secure your own mask first…

We’ve all heard the safety spiel on every commercial airplane. It’s logical. And yet, most people do the complete opposite.

Caregivers of all kinds pride themselves on working through injury, pain, fatigue, and conditions that might sideline other professionals. For decades, they’ve have sacrificed their own health and comfort for the sake of their patients.

As a result, they often take care of themselves last – not only at work, but also with their family and friends.

It can be hard to say, “No.” Mostly people figure out their boundaries once they’re too tired or too burned out to go on, and they have to find a new way.

But why wait until you’re sick to get healthy?

Healer, heal thyself.

Let me help you regain balance in your life. Reach out today (541) 668-5288.

Learn how to listen to and meet your own needs, not only so you can better help others, but so you can have the life and relationships that you deserve.